Wednesday, 31 October 2012
The London Fetish Weekend is a perfect event to meet fetishists from all over the world. Spanning over three days in October, the weekend offers plenty of opportunities to interact with other kinksters, whether at the LAM (London Alternative Market) on Saturday, the Brunch on Sunday or any of the club events.
As sponsors of the LFW, our presence at each venue allows us to inform the crowd about the Fetish Map London, but my interest goes beyond informing the public; researching, observing and writing shape my mission too, and of course, talking to the visitors.
It is the ideal time to investigate the different facets of fetish.
The multitude of opinions on fetish shows undoubtedly how varied the milieu is; 'one size doesn't fit all' is certainly the appropriate statement. Fetish is lived differently by each one.
For some, the thrill of playing, publicly or privately, is their raison d'être in the fetish universe. They come to the market to find new ways of spicing up their sex lives. New accessories, new ideas, new questions they seek answers to, whatever BDSM means to them, the weekend has a multitude of resources.
For others, modelling their creative latex outfits, feeling sexy and outrageous is what entices them. Not that they reject other forms of the fetish lifestyle, but wearing latex is exciting, the rest might be lived more privately.
A visitor stopped by our stand to chat about his passion for cross dressing, and shared his view that fetish is also tongue-in-cheek. He said, "I have great fun dressing up and being whoever I want to be at these events. But some people take it too seriously, and I like to see the lighter side of it. Maybe that's the eccentric in me. I feel that in the UK fetish can be whatever you want it to be but when I have travelled abroad, I have come across some hardcore BDSM who seem to take it all in such a somber manner, and they think I am not a true fetishist."
Yet, for another fetishist, who has been part of the milieu for over twenty years as a male dominant, fetish is a way of life entirely, it is not a hobby, nor a part time distraction or kick, it is simply a full time way of life. He looks around and smiles at the naivety of some, feeling that his fetish life goes much further and is deeply rooted.
BDSM / fetish is as profound or superficial and versatile as one wants it to be. No one can tell us how to live our kink, and if some have explored the scene for many years and have ventured right into their deepest desires while others have just scratched the surface, the choice is ours. Who is qualified to tell anyone if they are true fetishists / SMs or not?
Whichever route one chooses to take on the journey through their kink, I am happy that we always try to provide a guide for a complete lifestyle and meeting these fetishists at the LFW. Whether visiting us from other parts of the UK or Europe or farther afield, this is always a great time to learn more about the whole community.
Fetish has many facets and I'm always happy to hear about them all, and to talk about them all, it makes the whole canvass an interesting picture with as many hues as there are people.
We truly hope to see you at this event next year, so you can share your experiences with us all.
Take a look at the map - www.fetishmap.co.uk