BOUTIQUE DÈMONIA - THE FETISH SIDE OF PARIS

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One Shoe Fetish: A new kink?

The love story between a woman and shoes begins in childhood; at least it did for me. I found some of my mum's high heel shoes one day, in the cellar of our house in Paris. I was about 5 years old, and being too little I couldn't wear both shoes properly at the same time, so I walked around with one shoe on and one shoe off.

Strangely enough this idiosyncrasy, wearing one shoe on and one off, seems to have followed me into my adult life.

A busy life juggling writing projects, research, interviews and preparing seminars can soon turn into turmoil and feel hectic. Being organised is a must, but some things just have a tendency to stay a bit chaotic. Often, I find myself wearing one shoe on and one off, not really for the pleasure of it, but because I lose my shoes around the house. So, while I look around for one, I wear the other. The biggest challenge is walking down the stairs with only one shoe on, while the bare foot marches down on tiptoe, trying to keep the balance.

I never gave this behaviour a second thought, until recently someone approached me to talk about their unusual kink: One shoe fetish.

Men love women in high heels, it's sexy, elegant and graceful. Shoe fetish is very popular, a fetish that extends to boots and other footwear; and so is foot fetish. All over the world, men worship women's feet, whether they are part of the fetish world or not.

But could we combine foot and shoe fetish? Why not?

Nigel is the first man I have encountered who has done just that.

E: How did you come across this fetish?

N: I was born with it. It is a natural fetish, the one that gets me sexually aroused.

What is the excitement about looking at a woman wearing only one shoe?

N: It turns me on. It looks very attractive and sensual. When a woman wears one shoe, at some point she starts caressing her foot, mainly to shift the weight and give some relief to the bare foot, or to keep it warm. This is absolutely exciting and very feminine, even more so because most of the time, she does it inadvertently.

E: Do you enjoy women walking with one shoe and seeing the imbalance of the walk, or you see the beauty in seeing one bare foot and one shoe?

N: I see the beauty in seeing one bare foot and one shoe. Also, the great thing about a woman walking with one heel only is that she puts her bare foot on tiptoe, which is very sexy. When a woman walks bare feet, she puts her feet flat on the ground. This is not as exciting as seeing her tiptoeing. On the other hand, to tiptoe with both bare feet is only possible for a very limited time because it's unnatural. So, the best option is one heel on and tiptoe with the bare foot.

E: Is it also about being 'half way there', not quite the whole 'naked' look, but on the way there?

N: In a way, yes. A slight hint of nudity. Besides, a shoe is just about the only thing a woman can remove in public and not transgress the boundary of decency.


For many men, one shoe fetish means the best of 'both worlds': The bare foot, sexy and sensual in its natural state, and the foot dressed in a high heel, showing the elegance of a woman.

How often do you fantasise about playing out your fetish in public? Some kinky games or fantasies are far too daring outside the fetish milieu. One shoe fetish, however, could be more discreet, yet still thrilling and exciting.

Feet are the extension of hands, some say. Women enjoy teasing a man, caressing him all over with her bare feet. Even more sensual and arousing when she caresses her lover's sexual parts with her bare foot. The bare skin, the gentle slow movement, while keeping eye contact, can be titillating and orgasmic. A one shoe fantasy played in public is erotic. One shoe on, showing normality, while the bare foot is off playing.

The male's fantasy of a woman being both a madonna and a nymphomaniac at the same time, can be a turn on and exciting: Two conflicting women into one. She can conduct herself with grace, glamour and gentleness, in a beautiful dress and high heels, turning into a seductive sexual temptress when she decides to. Many men like this image, it's arousing, sexy and attractive.

In this world of opposites, yin and yang, good and bad, night and day, seeing both parts of the contrast at once can be gratifying. You have all you want, as one.

The one shoe fetish is part of this contrasting world, and although it might not be a well known kink, it makes sense to take pleasure in admiring a woman who is offering the best of both experiences. A beautiful foot in a sexy shoe, and the contrast of the bare foot, sensual, untamed, wild just free to be played with, or ready to play.

Foot fetish and shoe fetish, both coming under one. Will it catch on?

Why don't you try and let us know how it feels for you?

Or maybe you are already a member of this fetish group? Why not share your experience with us and offer some more insight?

Eva Lamour

Photography by James Drury

  

Fetish Words Definitions - 17 essential Fetish - BDSM related words for newcomers

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OSLO FETISH WEEKEND - May 2015

Who, in their right mind, is going to turn down an invitation to review the Oslo Fetish Weekend? My passion for travelling and cultural, and counter-cultural, exploration intertwined with a fetish party, was the perfect excuse for a weekend in Norway. Besides, I wanted to witness, first-hand, this land of 'happiness and serenity' and its people, adding the contrast of BDSM and fetish ambiance.

Oslo Fetish Weekend celebrated their first event this year, after months of careful preparation by producer Regina, who planned a whole array of entertainment for all taste and inclinations. Friday 8th May inaugurated the festivities with a free gathering, meeting and greeting all participants wishing to have a sneak preview. '50 Shades of Grey, done the right way', lead by Midori, launched the lineup of workshops available during the weekend. But the surprise of the weekend, for me, was the fetish fashion procession around the city. I wonder how many fetish fashion shows have used the streets of London as their catwalk?

The panoply of seminars, and classes, offered something for each tendency: Domestic discipline, kink advice, kinky speed dating practice, and not forgetting rope bondage, a favourite at all fetish festivals across the world.

Red Room Ball at Château Neuf

As for us, we were curious about the Red Room Ball, on Saturday night. Parties are perfect to meet the fetish community, when everybody is relaxed and buzzing, eager to socialise. The atmosphere tells the best story, worth a thousand words.

Château Neuf hosted this first Fetish party. A small venue offering a bar area, a lounge and a stage room, big enough to accommodate all visitors eager to watch the performances of the night. However, the size of this location didn't feel claustrophobic because, as we experienced early on in the city, the small population of Oslo reflected the size of the crowd this evening.

A small gathering compared to the London or Berlin Fetish Festival, but it is usual for first events to welcome fewer international participants. We have no doubt that in future years, this once-upon-a-time-small-event will become a must-experience fetish scene in Europe.

Fewer people doesn't imply less fun, and these kinksters were very eager to have the best time ever. The friendliness we encountered was above expectation. The crowd was by far the warmest I have encountered in fetish parties, big or small. After a few minutes absorbing the ambiance, we were approached by a charming couple who spoke about the fetish scene in Norway, and how delighted everyone was to finally welcome this event in their city.

I have attended endless fetish parties in London, where people tend to gather and socialise with their own group. Newcomers stand or stroll around the place on their own, and if they're extroverted they will try to start a conversation with other groups. But not many party-goers ever seem interested to communicate with people they don't know, unless they have a reason.  Norwegians are totally different. Their culture is about inclusion. Of course, generalising any cultural trait is incorrect, but this is what I experienced the whole weekend, either first-hand or while observing interactions in bars, restaurants, gatherings and sometimes in public transport.

In London, the best way to mingle in fetish parties is by infiltrating the smoking area, whether you smoke or not. Introduce yourself, join in some chats, and people are usually happy to talk to you. But in Oslo, if you are a newcomer, you are more likely to be approached by the regulars who want everybody to feel included. Impressive!

A mixture of sensuality, fetishism and voyeurism

The first performance of the night flew from Paris. L'Erosticratie, an 'artistic and political project' defying the meaning of sexual love in society, performs the art of eroticism on stage in all its forms and values. In this scene, the protagonist directed the play. Wearing a long white dress, and a ghostly face, she was living her erotic dream. Her remote control, or zapper, gave her full control of the other two characters on stage, leaving them at her mercy. A submissive nun, on a leash, who seemed to be in a trance, was led by her Master. Erotic play, the French way, was a mixture of sensuality, fetishism and voyeurism, as the protagonist gets turned on by the erotic play. An original and captivating tableau that won the whole crowd, and gave an outstanding ovation, asking for more…!

Not forgetting the compère tonight, Floyd Erik Vawter, the flamboyant goth artist, owned the stage with his theatrical parade and interactions. He was grand, witty with plenty of authority, as he reminded the crowd about the rules for the night, all in English.

I speak many languages, and English is my third language, but I am still amazed, when I travel to some of these festivals, to witness how English becomes the main, if not the only, language on stage. The whole festival used English as if it were their first language. So, for those brits worried about feeling isolated, do not fear, it will be all right on the night!

Bringing variety to the evening, Kiki Cherie, international burlesque performer from Sweden, delighted the spectators with her magnificent  bawdy routine. Teasing and charming the crowd, she entertained with grace and sensuality, earning her place in this festival celebrating all things erotic, kinky and perverted.

A fashion statement

As in all fetish parties, making a fashion statement is, for most, a major component of the night. Latex, leather or anything that tells the world 'I am into BDSM' or 'This is me living my fetish' is the norm at all festivals and parties. I was delighted to spot Regina, the organiser and hostess of this event, wearing a similar outfit to mine: Both modelling a creation by Libidex, one of the most successful latex fashion designers in London.

However, I was rather taken aback by the weirdest costume of the night: The biggest latex 'angry baby' full head mask I have ever come across. Rather freaky but not unexpected from the country that showcases the sculptures of Gustav Vigeland and his angry baby, probably the most photographed baby sculpture in the world. Why? Not sure, but if in Oslo, a must-see for all visitors.

If interested in this latex full head mask, the owner shared with us that it came from the USA, at a rather high cost, and had taken about three weeks. But, if you are looking for some original ideas, why not give it a go?

Fetish tourism

So, would we go back? Certainly! And I would encourage all fetishists and kinksters of the world to support Oslo Fetish Weekend next year.

We promote fetish tourism in all its forms, because cultural differences are best experienced through a community that defies all frontiers, and goes beyond language and national habits. Let's embrace the counterculture we belong to, and enjoy the fetish milieu, wherever that may be.

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Eva Lamour

Part of the Oslo Fetish Weekend Crew

FETISH MAP LONDON, Issue 8 - OUT NOW...!

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FETISH, THE HOLLYWOOD WAY.... WITH KIM FOWLEY and 'The Hollywood Sexual Underground'

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London Fetish Weekend 2012 - The Diverse Facets of Fetish...

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Morpheous - 'How to be Kinkier - More Adventures in Adult Playtime'

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Getting my fangs into the best...!

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London Fetish Weekend - Rope and Roast

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London Fetish Weekend - LAM

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BoundCon VII: a festival of bondage demonstration and play, hosted in Munich - May 2010

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Munich: our next destination on our 'Fetish Exploration around Europe' mission. James and I had been planning various trips around Europe this year, which had to be rethought in view of the latest volcano disaster. However, despite the menacing ash cloud hanging over us, the plane took off and was on its way to Munich. And here we were, in the land of BMW, Pretzels, Weiß beir and Weißwurst, ready to observe and explore some of this bondage extravaganza and meet new fellow fetishists. After checking in at the hotel and leaving suitcases in the room, we were ready to go.
I was very curious to see this exhibition, as I had never attended any German fetish event. Getting to the venue by public transport was an adventure in itself! When we finally arrived, I was somehow surprised. This building looked more like a big warehouse than an exhibition hall! In fact, there were two buildings parallel to each other, and I was told that one of them had been used as a power plant in the past. In England, these annual fetish exhibitions tend to take place in more modern halls, such as the Barbican; so this promised to be different.

As we entered the hall, the first thing that struck me was the darkness. This massive warehouse, hosting a multitude of stalls neatly aligned, was being kept in dimness. I guess the organisers wanted to give an intimate ambiance to it. I'm not sure how the exhibitors would cope without seeing much light for twelve hours! We began strolling up and down the aisles. It was Friday afternoon and it felt like the whole place was still waiting for the visitors to arrive. It seemed that the exhibitors outnumbered the visitors!

This was BoundCon, a celebration of BDSM, and true to its name, a demonstration of bondage, domination, and sado masochism was present at every stall through an array of weird, wonderful and kinky articles: whips, paddles, cuffs, masks, strap-ons, gynaecological equipment (I don't recall ever seeing such a collection in any English fetish exhibition), electric play equipment, stainless steel sex play items, jewellery, not forgetting the clothes and shoes for all tastes, original dungeon furniture, and much more.

Although I speak various languages, German is not one of them, so, for the first time in my life I felt at a disadvantage. Yet, as I approached the stalls and asked if anyone spoke English, someone always said yes. Whether they were German, Dutch or any other nationality, at least one person could communicate with us! How amazing! And everyone was extremely friendly!

Whilst walking around, perusing, observing, and talking, I became aware of something that I have never witnessed in any English fetish exhibition. It appeared that anyone was allowed to take photos of whoever they wished, without seeking their permission! Even official photographers in England have the courtesy to ask before photographing, but this didn't seem the case here! So, whenever a woman was parading herself showing some nudity, a hoard of men would stop and behave like a group of paparazzi. In some cases I witnessed men taking photos with their mobile phone cameras, almost secretly, which felt more like voyeurism!! So, beware when you attend these venues; if you do not wish to be photographed, this might be an issue.
It just leaves me with the question: are these men really interested in the fetish scene for itself or do they attend for the exhibitionism displayed?

As we headed to the exhibition soon after our arrival at the hotel, we hadn't had time to eat and therefore, my first experience with German food, in Germany, was at the venue, and I was looking forward to seeing what the bar had to offer: sausages, of course, and potato salad, amongst other typical, regional food. Weiß beir seemed to be the most popular beer, but I didn't fancy any alcohol so I ordered some fruit juice. However, everything seemed to come in a fizzy version, which I wasn't very keen on, so I opted to share James's beer instead!! The choice of food was not ample, so we seemed to keep a diet of potato salad and sausages during both days! Actually, there was no restaurant or cafeteria, but an area at the back of the venue with a bar at the front, serving some food and coffee, and another bar at the back offering various beverages. Sandwiched in the middle were some wooden tables with benches, quite wobbly, which would tilt when the person at the other end stood up, so we had to warn one another when leaving!
Yet, nobody attends a fetish exhibition for the food, so our focus soon returned to the important aspect of our visit.

Bondage was the prime focus of this exhibition; Fetish by name but BDSM by nature. The various shows on bondage were a feast for the eyes, as demonstrations took place on a regular basis on the front stage. Models had their area by the side of the stage, and were available throughout the day for the shows. On occasions, the models and the artist would walk around the venue showing the intricate and creative art of bondage.
As the exhibition took a new lease of life on the Saturday, the heart of it seemed to be throbbing at a faster pace. The whole place came to life with a showcase of bondage escapism, fashion shows, domination / submission play, and the buzz of visitors stopping for a chat, a demonstration, and some play.

As the after party was being held in the building opposite, many visitors arrived late afternoon in order to tie one event with the other. After all, the exhibition was quite long: 12:00 till 00:00, so there was no hurry to get there for opening time. But twelve hours on your feet is rather challenging. At English fetish celebrations, a foot slave would be on standby to serve all Mistresses, dutifully, but here not one slave on sight. In fact, what became very transparent at this event was that the domination / submission pattern was male to female. The female domination seemed practically non-existent in Germany. When I enquired about it, most men smiled and seemed surprised at the thought of being submissive. Do they see this as a disgrace to the macho status, or are they genuinely all dominant male, or do they secretly wish to be dominated by a Mistress? I'm not sure I'll ever find out, but one thing is for sure, I prefer a good balance. What's the fun in letting a man dominate you if you can't take your turn?? Then again my balance tends to veer more towards female domination...

Whatever your tastes or inclinations, BoundCon is really worth a visit. It took me a little while to be convinced but we met some very interesting, friendly and exuberant people. I would not quite describe this event as fetish but more a celebration of BDSM. A new experience to live if you want to see how others around the world live their fantasies and always something new to learn.


Eva Lamour

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WIPING BACK THE YEARS... The story of an infantilist

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