Thursday, 10 June 2010

BoundCon VII: a festival of bondage demonstration and play, hosted in Munich - May 2010

Munich: our next destination on our 'Fetish Exploration around Europe' mission. James and I had been planning various trips around Europe this year, which had to be rethought in view of the latest volcano disaster. However, despite the menacing ash cloud hanging over us, the plane took off and was on its way to Munich. And here we were, in the land of BMW, Pretzels, Weiß beir and Weißwurst, ready to observe and explore some of this bondage extravaganza and meet new fellow fetishists. After checking in at the hotel and leaving suitcases in the room, we were ready to go.
I was very curious to see this exhibition, as I had never attended any German fetish event. Getting to the venue by public transport was an adventure in itself! When we finally arrived, I was somehow surprised. This building looked more like a big warehouse than an exhibition hall! In fact, there were two buildings parallel to each other, and I was told that one of them had been used as a power plant in the past. In England, these annual fetish exhibitions tend to take place in more modern halls, such as the Barbican; so this promised to be different.

As we entered the hall, the first thing that struck me was the darkness. This massive warehouse, hosting a multitude of stalls neatly aligned, was being kept in dimness. I guess the organisers wanted to give an intimate ambiance to it. I'm not sure how the exhibitors would cope without seeing much light for twelve hours! We began strolling up and down the aisles. It was Friday afternoon and it felt like the whole place was still waiting for the visitors to arrive. It seemed that the exhibitors outnumbered the visitors!

This was BoundCon, a celebration of BDSM, and true to its name, a demonstration of bondage, domination, and sado masochism was present at every stall through an array of weird, wonderful and kinky articles: whips, paddles, cuffs, masks, strap-ons, gynaecological equipment (I don't recall ever seeing such a collection in any English fetish exhibition), electric play equipment, stainless steel sex play items, jewellery, not forgetting the clothes and shoes for all tastes, original dungeon furniture, and much more.

Although I speak various languages, German is not one of them, so, for the first time in my life I felt at a disadvantage. Yet, as I approached the stalls and asked if anyone spoke English, someone always said yes. Whether they were German, Dutch or any other nationality, at least one person could communicate with us! How amazing! And everyone was extremely friendly!

Whilst walking around, perusing, observing, and talking, I became aware of something that I have never witnessed in any English fetish exhibition. It appeared that anyone was allowed to take photos of whoever they wished, without seeking their permission! Even official photographers in England have the courtesy to ask before photographing, but this didn't seem the case here! So, whenever a woman was parading herself showing some nudity, a hoard of men would stop and behave like a group of paparazzi. In some cases I witnessed men taking photos with their mobile phone cameras, almost secretly, which felt more like voyeurism!! So, beware when you attend these venues; if you do not wish to be photographed, this might be an issue.
It just leaves me with the question: are these men really interested in the fetish scene for itself or do they attend for the exhibitionism displayed?

As we headed to the exhibition soon after our arrival at the hotel, we hadn't had time to eat and therefore, my first experience with German food, in Germany, was at the venue, and I was looking forward to seeing what the bar had to offer: sausages, of course, and potato salad, amongst other typical, regional food. Weiß beir seemed to be the most popular beer, but I didn't fancy any alcohol so I ordered some fruit juice. However, everything seemed to come in a fizzy version, which I wasn't very keen on, so I opted to share James's beer instead!! The choice of food was not ample, so we seemed to keep a diet of potato salad and sausages during both days! Actually, there was no restaurant or cafeteria, but an area at the back of the venue with a bar at the front, serving some food and coffee, and another bar at the back offering various beverages. Sandwiched in the middle were some wooden tables with benches, quite wobbly, which would tilt when the person at the other end stood up, so we had to warn one another when leaving!
Yet, nobody attends a fetish exhibition for the food, so our focus soon returned to the important aspect of our visit.

Bondage was the prime focus of this exhibition; Fetish by name but BDSM by nature. The various shows on bondage were a feast for the eyes, as demonstrations took place on a regular basis on the front stage. Models had their area by the side of the stage, and were available throughout the day for the shows. On occasions, the models and the artist would walk around the venue showing the intricate and creative art of bondage.
As the exhibition took a new lease of life on the Saturday, the heart of it seemed to be throbbing at a faster pace. The whole place came to life with a showcase of bondage escapism, fashion shows, domination / submission play, and the buzz of visitors stopping for a chat, a demonstration, and some play.

As the after party was being held in the building opposite, many visitors arrived late afternoon in order to tie one event with the other. After all, the exhibition was quite long: 12:00 till 00:00, so there was no hurry to get there for opening time. But twelve hours on your feet is rather challenging. At English fetish celebrations, a foot slave would be on standby to serve all Mistresses, dutifully, but here not one slave on sight. In fact, what became very transparent at this event was that the domination / submission pattern was male to female. The female domination seemed practically non-existent in Germany. When I enquired about it, most men smiled and seemed surprised at the thought of being submissive. Do they see this as a disgrace to the macho status, or are they genuinely all dominant male, or do they secretly wish to be dominated by a Mistress? I'm not sure I'll ever find out, but one thing is for sure, I prefer a good balance. What's the fun in letting a man dominate you if you can't take your turn?? Then again my balance tends to veer more towards female domination...

Whatever your tastes or inclinations, BoundCon is really worth a visit. It took me a little while to be convinced but we met some very interesting, friendly and exuberant people. I would not quite describe this event as fetish but more a celebration of BDSM. A new experience to live if you want to see how others around the world live their fantasies and always something new to learn.

Eva Lamour

Take a look at the map -


Thursday, 18 March 2010

WIPING BACK THE YEARS... The story of an infantilist

Whilst most of us can’t wait to grow up and become independent, decide for ourselves what to wear, what to do or even what to think, others secretly rejoice at being little ones and wish they could be a child forever. You might think of Peter Pan, the boy who never grew up, but this is no film script, this is a real life story.

Infatilists crave to regress to a younger age: baby, toddler or teenager, sometimes with a desire to wear nappies. They are known as adult babies, or ABs. Not much has been written about adult babies, mostly due to not having ample information about them; therefore the few articles in existence are from psychologists or doctors. So, when I met Christian in a fetish club in London, who confessed to being an infantilist, curiosity got the better of me and I jumped at the offer of spending some time in his company and his ‘little me’, Bibbi, in order to understand about ABs. After all, who better than a real life AB to answer the multitude of questions I had?

We arranged for me to live in his world for a few days and share the life of an infantilist. Christian is very willing and keen to talk about himself and his age play, as infantilism still carries many negative connotations and prejudices. He wants to dissolve some of the beliefs that he has encountered and show everybody that ABs are no weird creatures who suffer from some kind of psychological disturbance, nor should they be cured of a strange condition.

Once settled in his apartment, I am ready to observe, and participate if the occasion presents itself. I am curious to see how Christian and Bibbi live together, whether it is a Jekyl and Hyde scenario, taking on a different identity, or simply a question of changing clothes and wearing nappies, or again something rather different.

To read my whole article as it was printed on Skin Two, visit:

Come back here to leave your comments directly to me...!


Take a look at the map -


Thursday, 11 March 2010

Floggers, Feet and Fetishes with Fetish Map London...

The alternative London Street Map: Fetish Map London

Fellowship of Fetishists with Fetish Map London

Floggers, Feet and Fetishes with Fetish Map London

Fetish Map London 2010/11, issue 6, launched by PictureRama Publishing.

Starting this new decade with yet another eminent creation, Fetish Map London 2010/11, offers all fetishists, worldwide, the most all-encompassing, informative and indispensable guide for all fetish necessities and desires: shopping, clubbing, socialising, essential services, munches and many more, at a convenient pocket size.

Fetish Map London is the only must-have accessory amongst the fetish enthusiasts, connoisseurs or newcomers. It is undoubtedly the most current guide for decadent exploration and adventure. You will not find any other publication that will provide you with all the information you need. With over 200 wide-ranging fetish, kinky, eccentric and fully comprehensive listings, it supplies you even the most hidden of places. Fetish Map London is your best chance to find that special place when your thoughts turn to playful adventure.

London remains for many a fetish realm, but we want all fetishists, worldwide, to find each other, so we have gathered more events, shops and publications globally, for you to enjoy a wider array of pan-sexual adventure, whatever your tastes and inclinations. Going from success to success, this edition has attracted many advertisers from farther afield so you can enjoy your fetishes in your travelling.

Make 2010 the year for decadent fun and buy your new Fetish Map London before you embark on your journey to explore the kinky, saucy, eccentric world of fetish.

Copies of Fetish Map London can be purchased for just £3.50 (plus p&p) in our on-line shop at:
PictureRama has been providing photography and journalism to worldwide publishers and the alternative press for 20 years. Numerous exhibitions, magazines and on-line publications have featured PictureRama photography.

More information about PictureRama Publishing and Photography can be found on:

Eva Lamour

Take a look at the map -


Sunday, 7 February 2010

Your Fetish - everywhere in London

Produced by PictureRama Publishing, Fetish Map London is a one-stop shop for clubbing, shopping, socialising and essential services at a convenient pocket size. It's a publication that is fully comprehensive, delivering you even the hardest to reach places. The Map, detailed listings and brief drescription are all that is needed for the best shopping or night out in town. Fetish Map London is an essential accessory for decadent exploration and adventure, whatever your tastes!

We want to hear your views about the best Map yet and look forward to hearing from you!

Eva Lamour

Take a look at the map -